Do You Possess This Winning Quality? You’ll Likely Travel More.

by Bianca @ Italian Fix

Post image for Do You Possess This Winning Quality? You’ll Likely Travel More.

Have you ever found yourself making choices that others raise their eyebrows at?

But you move forward anyway, because there’s something in you that says…

“Everything is gonna be alright.”

“I’ll figure it out.”

“I got this.”

Not that you’re not scared sh**less sometimes. But you kinda just march to your own beat. Because nobody else’s beat has ever really been a perfect match.

If you can relate, then you may love this quote from Amelia Earhart:

“Never interrupt someone doing something you said couldn’t be done.”

I love to hear “against all odds” stories, don’t you? Of people who rise above.

It’s a bit hard to put a finger on what to call people like this.

Because it’s not an “open-mindedness.” It’s more of an “open-spiritedness.”

Open-spirited types are open to the magic of the universe.

If you’re open to the magic of the universe, you have a general view that all things are self-correcting and that even if you make the “wrong” move, you’ll gain a bunch of knowledge along the way. And that’s worth it.

You embrace the philosophy:

You don’t fail, you learn. 

What Side Are You On?

 

Being open to the magic of the universe means hanging out on the lighter side of life.

The dark side happens when you see things through fear and conditioning. You know when you hang out there too much cause everything feels heavy.

I’m going to be your cheerleader and encourage you to hang out on the light side. Because everything I’ve ever wanted to figure out or experience has been created when I come from that place.

You’re Doing Whaaaaaat?

 

If you’ve ever expressed your “big idea” and have had others stare blankly in disbelief, girl, I feel ya!

Here are some of the things I’ve jumped into with both feet while some major eyebrow-raising was going on from well-meaning folks.

1. As a teenager, I moved out of my family home and across the country. At 16 I felt all grown up. My mom asked me not to go and everyone who was an adult was concerned, to say the least. I came back a year later ‘cause I missed, well… everything. Especially my mom.

Lesson: Self-confidence and self-awareness are built when you let yourself be OK with making mistakes. And just be open to the magic of the universe.

2. When I was 19 I worked in Ireland for the summer. I was given a job, a fair wage, and a house to live in by a complete stranger. Ten other people also lived in the house, and we all worked in that seasonal town. The walk to work was one hour each way, but sometimes a local would give us a lift. I rode on many dusty tractors, milk trucks and hay trailers.

Lesson: There are good and kind people all over the globe. When you travel you meet them. Just be open to the magic of the universe.

3. When I was 20, I was supposed to be at college on a scholarship I received. I was wracked with guilt and fear because I really didn’t want to study what I had signed up for, but I also didn’t want to throw away scholarship money. I tortured myself overthinking everything for months. I never went, and I’m so glad.

Lesson: Be OK with saying “that’s not a good fit for me” — because you know in your heart when it isn’t. (Then go spend time figuring out what IS your thing, because figuring out that out is your most important mission.) Just be open to the magic of the universe.

4. When I was 24 I sold my couch for a plane ticket to Italy, and I missed a midnight train to fall in love.

Lesson: Always miss the train for love (that sweetie is now my husband of 12 years), and always be ready to part with material possessions because they are most definitely replaceable. What is not replaceable, however, is your precious time on this planet. Carpe Diem. And be open to the magic of the universe.

5. When I was 28 I got married in Italy. At the city hall in my husband’s home town. Since we were more interested in love and “getting on with our life” than traditions, we skipped throwing a wedding, we wore what we had, invited no one, and that night, ate dinner at Mamma’s house.

Lesson: Meaning is what you make it. Don’t wait for everything to be perfect. Start where you’re at and figure it out as you go. And be open to the magic of the universe.

Trust that beauty and opportunity will find you.

Move to the light side.

If things could be better right now, trust they will be.

If there’s something you’d like to change, trust you will make it happen.

If there’s a “thing” you just can’t shake, trust your gut enough to make your move and go and get it.

Beauty and opportunity look for the ones who stand up and say, “Me too! I’m over here!”

Don’t be shy.

Apply for the raise.
Ask for the upgrade.
Sit at the front of the class.
Book that plane ticket.
Say yes when a sweet guy/gal wants to make you dinner.
Say “why not?” when others say “you can’t.”
Don’t wait for it. Go grab it.

Hone your “pounce” mentality. Because you’ll need those steady legs when good things roll your way.

Be the person who recognizes them.

You’ve got one chance to make this lifetime great.

***
Now, I would love to hear from you.

If you get a chance, tell me your “jumped in with both feet” moments.

What happened? Any “glad I know that now” lessons?

I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

Xx
Bianca

P.S.  Here’s a video I dropped on the subject. 

Image credits: Azzurra Biagi

Pin it 0

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Marie Kimber

Bianca, You beautiful soul….you’ve made me cry again 🙂 I am so hearin’ ya girlfriend; you are my kindred spirit. You may recall a chat we had over a couple of drinks in Riomaggiore last June. Well since then I have started my own online business and my dream to live and work anywhere in the world (particularly Italy) is coming to life. I have poured my heart & soul into this and am making the godamn thing happen. #dontstopmenow #livelifeorchangeit #notaholidayythisismylife Keep up your fabulous work, you’re a legend xo

Reply

Jeannie

Never in my wildest dreams did I think when “meeting” Bianca in Ciao Italian Fix that she would speak the same “language” as I..not Italian, but the language of the universe.I am 30 years older than she, and kudos to her that it hasn’t taken her as long as it did for me to be brave, know yourself and go for it!!!!!
I agree with your thoughts 100%….I am dreaming of joining one of your tours…that may be the next brave thing I do!

Reply

Nancy Dellagrotta

Thank you, Bianca, for the beautiful message this morning – or any morning. Messages like this are always “right on time”.

Nancy

Reply

Erin T

Preach Bianca! I love your message and your examples are ridiculously true. No regrets, not now, not ever. Hands down the best decision I ever made was go against all fears and self limits and join your Southern Italy trip on my own. The experience was beyond my wildest dreams. I saw things unimaginable, I tasted life in many ways through sensational meals, more importantly through the sights, the lifetime friendships created and the growth of myself for leaping into the unknown and being brave. I am grateful for the day I picked up the phone and called to inquire about your trips, which seems like forever ago. Life is meant to be thoroughly lived. Eat the cake, Buy the purse, Take the trip!!!!
Thank you Italian Fix for enriching my life.
#noregrets #liveforthemement #lavitabella

Reply

Sharon Adams

Thanks for the incredibly encouraging words. Sometimes I think too much.

Reply

Dara

Dearest Bianca,

Is it strange that I feel a sort of kinship with you? I, too, am an Italy-obsessed redhead from Vancouver, Canada who’s keen on living life from a place of the heart and inspired by the many musings of the Universe! I’ve been to Italy twice now, amounting to a year in total, and I’m keen on returning in the near future for a long while. I’m really inspired by how you’ve created your own work to fit your lifestyle! Over the last few years, I’ve learned how to build websites simply as a way to make remote income so I have the freedom to explore other countries and cultures. Not to mention I was a music major in school which has nothing to do with the work I do now, haha… Regardless, thank you for sharing your stories and living life unconventionally, we need more people like you leading the way for us wanderers still finding our path. I’d love to be a part of a business like this, or create one of my own, it’s perfection!

Keep rockin’ it girl and inspiring us all! I hope we’ll get to meet one day 🙂

Grazie per tutto,

Dara

Reply

Tessa

What a beautiful post Bianca and it comes so at the right time.
Thanks for reminding us all of what’s really important in this life. 🙂

Tessa

Reply

Leave a Comment

Previous post: