October 2017

I Wish I Didn’t Have To Write This

by Bianca @ Italian Fix

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I wish that every one of us was so fulfilled, clear on the meaning of our existence and so incredibly content — that I wouldn’t be writing this.

If you’re one of those unicorns who is dripping clarity, purpose, and self-assuredness 200% of the time, please stop reading, because these matters don’t concern you (but call me ‘cause I wanna know what you’re drinking).

For the rest of us, I’m going to underline a fundamental truth.

Here it is:

It’s ALL up to you.

In other words, quit waiting for others to give you a permission slip to do things you want to do.

Here are 5 pointers to help you ditch external validation and feel good while doing it.

Warning: you might not know what to do with your newfound chutzpah.

1. No one who is going to take care of you. I mean, they did, when you were a kid and your lunch needed to be packed, and your nose wiped. But now, adulting means, paradoxically, you’ve got to follow-through and take care of you first. The ol’ “put your oxygen mask on first” rule is just the way it’s gotta be, so everyone survives (and hopefully thrives).

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Have you ever found yourself making choices that others raise their eyebrows at?

But you move forward anyway, because there’s something in you that says…

“Everything is gonna be alright.”

“I’ll figure it out.”

“I got this.”

Not that you’re not scared sh**less sometimes. But you kinda just march to your own beat. Because nobody else’s beat has ever really been a perfect match.

If you can relate, then you may love this quote from Amelia Earhart:

“Never interrupt someone doing something you said couldn’t be done.”

I love to hear “against all odds” stories, don’t you? Of people who rise above.

It’s a bit hard to put a finger on what to call people like this.

Because it’s not an “open-mindedness.” It’s more of an “open-spiritedness.”

Open-spirited types are open to the magic of the universe.

If you’re open to the magic of the universe, you have a general view that all things are self-correcting and that even if you make the “wrong” move, you’ll gain a bunch of knowledge along the way. And that’s worth it.

You embrace the philosophy:

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Italian Fix leads with compassion

We all have our North Stars.

North Stars are the things we naturally move towards and use as our motivation.

Today I have something to say about one of mine: COMPASSION.

A few years back, I remember watching my daughter, who was five at the time, get her heart shattered into a million pieces.

You could see her small body contort and each muscle on her face flex as she wailed, dropped her library books in the muddy parking lot, and ran to the scene of her own personal tragedy.

She arrived at her plastic “bug cage” that was sitting on the ground with the lid off. That morning she had brought it to school, where she had carefully placed three tent caterpillars, harvested from the cherry tree in our backyard along with sticks, leaves, grass and whatever else a five-year-old believes caterpillars will need to survive a day of kindergarten.

Two playmates from school had gotten ahold of the cage, opened it, removed a caterpillar… and stomped on it. “You need to kill these kind,” snapped one of the boys.

Apparently, these boys were taught that tent caterpillars were merely pests.

But my daughter had no idea.

To her, these little dudes were a thing of beauty. Colorful, furry, funny in the way they moved — a winning combination for show-and-tell.

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